Busyness, Mindfulness, Self Care

Listening to Our Inner Voice

Have you ever had that moment when you knew what you were saying yes to wasn’t going to be good for you?  Sometimes you just know something isn’t right and there’s as disquiet insight that sits uncomfortably inside you. Unfortunately we often drown that inner voice out and go ahead with things that we later find were not the best decisions or paths we could have taken. Where you become so busy doing things that you don’t even know why you’re doing them.

We’ve all been there. Lessons learned.

Tuning into our inner voice is about connecting with ourselves and listening to what we really want. This of course helps us to clarify what we really need to be doing or sometimes not doing. There are a lot of ways that we can connect with our inner voice such as using mediation or yoga, or seeing a specialist who can also help along the path. Ensuring that we take time and allow ourselves some stillness in a busy world to stop and recharge.

Sometimes we can worry about not having a path, nothing is clear and that’s okay as well. Learning to sit with that can be uncomfortable in a world where we think of being busy and having goals planned out all the time is the answer.  We can always learn more about ourselves and how we work and this can be a time of growing. In fact it can be very freeing to not have something mapped out and just be free.  For all too soon something will come along and you’ll be busy again….. With things that need to be done so ensure that you enjoy those moments.  Relax…. You’ve got this.




Song List

Music Monday

Had a great night out last Friday night. Took my girls to see Good Morning Vietnam at the local cinema who were doing a retro night.  Robin Williams made us laugh and cry – what an incredible man.

What struck me was the soundtrack from the film and how amazing it was. All weekend these songs kept popping back into my head and are such a great representation of that time. Favourites are Baby Please Don’t Go, I Got You and What a Wonderful World.

Here’s the list – what are your favourites?

  • Around The World
  • Baby Please Don’t Go
  • Ballad of a Thin Man
  • Beach Blanket Bingo
  • California Sun
  • Cast Your Fate To The Wind
  • Danger Heartbreak Dead Ahead
  • Don’t Worry Baby
  • Dream On Little Dreamer
  • Five O’Clock World
  • Game Of Love
  • Hot Time In The Old Town Tonight
  • I Get Around
  • I Got You (I Feel Good)
  • I’ll Never Smile Again
  • In The Midnight Hour
  • It’s Alright
  • Kit Kat Polka
  • Liar Liar
  • Acapulco
  • Lollipops & Roses
  • Nowhere To Run
  • Smoke Gets In Your Eyes
  • Sugar And Spice
  • Warmth Of The Sun
  • What A Wonderful World
  • Yeah Yeah
  • My Boyfriend’s Back
  • Puff The Magic Dragon
  • Rawhide
  • You Keep Me Hangin’ On
  • Like Tweet
  • Get A Job





Self Care

What is Self-Care

Definition of self-care in English



The practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health.

  1. ‘autonomy in self-care and insulin administration’
    1. 1 The practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.
      ‘expressing oneself is an essential form of self-care’
      as modifier‘self-care methods such as meditation’*


What active role are you currently taking to protect your own well-being? Your happiness?

It is a planned activity such as exercise, mediation, reading.

In the next couple of weeks we will be looking at how to put a self care plan together. Like any new thing that you want to start you might need to find somewhere to learn how to do things, connect with others who are like minded and plan ways to look after yourself so that when stress comes along you have a plan in place to help get you through it.

You can find us on Facebook Be Right Here and our group Every Day Self Care

* As taken from https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/self-care

Self Care

Real Life Friendships

Our use of tech in this modern world means we can ‘stay in touch’ with each other so easily using social media but are we actually staying in touch?

Research tells us that having a network of supportive relationships means we live longer lives and have better health and well-being. Are they talking about social media friendships or real life friendships?  I’m sure that there needs to be a balance of both but often we forget and just rely on phone calls and messages.

I recently took a trip away for a weekend to catch up with a couple that I had met while travelling last year. It struck me how much I enjoyed seeing them in real life and enjoyed talking to them face to face rather than messages online and even phone calls. The delight that the real life experience gave me reminded me of the importance of friendship in our lives and the importance of sustaining those friendships.

When you are experiencing distress or uncertainty the practical benefits of having friendships is truly discernible.  Friends can offer you advice and guidance or just be there for a shoulder to cry on. 

When next you have a moment why not plan a Real Life Friendship Moment and bolster those friendships you love and treasure.



Love, Uncategorized

My Dear Friend

I heard terrible news yesterday. A good friend of a friend passed away suddenly. I had met her and I really liked her. She was bright and confident and lovely. It is so sad.


My friend is of course devastated and every word that she said told me how much she missed her.

I heard pain.

She spoke of how she had recently spent time with her and what a lovely day it was.

I heard love.

She spoke of the things that she will do to help the family.

I heard kindness.

We talked of a time when she too was in a similar situation as the family.

I heard understanding.


To my beautiful friend – this is why you are so special to me.

Take care of you,

Alita xx

Kindness, Self Care

Social Intergration


In keeping with my post yesterday on the importance of Real Life Friendships here is a great TED video  which talks about research on what does it take to live for 100 years? These are the surprising predictors of a long, healthy life.

Watch the full TED Talk here: http://t.ted.com/nMk9fKb